(that may be true!) — I watch very little television, which is striking because as a kid I felt like I was addicted to it. My mother says I stopped watching when I got to high school. …

My husband is dead, but his laughter is very much alive — Recently, James Finn put out a request for people to declare their LGBTQ AGENDA, a response to all the vitriol being heaped upon the queer community over the past year, calling us groomers, child molesters, criminals and abusers. Some of it is political expediency, but some is the fear that…

Loyalty isn’t all it’s cracked up to be — One summer in 2005 while visiting Israel with a friend, we learned that Jerusalem was having a Pride parade. There was a lot of fanfare surrounding this parade. The story I got was that the new mayor of Jerusalem, closely aligned with the religious movement opposed to homosexuality, tried to…

How do we thrive when we know the world is about to be devoured — I woke up in the middle of the night yesterday with a start. Maybe I heard a noise in the house? I looked over at the clock. It was about 2 AM. I was sort of wide awake, though whenever that happens, I can’t really tell how awake I really…

A National Coming Out Day love story National Coming Out Day! I think I’ll talk about a couple of the guys in my life. I really want to talk about Lil Nas X; I adore him. Listen, the guy is hot, let’s be real. But even with clothes on he’s…

We have so many terrible collective failures. But we’re not totally fucked. A few days ago, I woke up very early and noticeably uncomfortable and in a bad mood. I don’t know why exactly, because we never really know ourselves, but I was bothered. I just sat with it for…

It took a while to realize it’s only the beginning of my story I hate tradition, which means that several times a year when it really comes alive, I drive my friends and family crazy. It’s boring, it’s annoying and weird, and frankly, it’s kind of dangerous. It’s the cause…